Wednesday, April 1, 2009

Learning it my own way

It’s taking too long, this tiptoeing over glass.
Shall I grab your arm and yank you
out of harm’s way?

You scream and roar, suddenly heavy, limp
on crumpled knees, demanding to be put
right back where you were.


What's it like parenting a child who isn't autistic? Is it the same? Both my kids are like this, though they seem to mellow out a bit as they get older. The younger one still rages and roars, especially at her big brother when he insists on helping her out. I think she is teaching him patience. He would probably be a very different person right now, if it wasn't for his little sister.

10 comments:

Woman in a Window said...

I think there must not be any formula for parenting, as there's no formula for any one child. So varied, these little people, so complicated. I just hold on tight and try to do my best.

nollyposh said...

wOw TWO autistic children! Superwoman! YOU must be the one with all the patience... (You could do a blog just on that alone!) ...in my experience you are right, each child (i have 3) teaches the ones after and each have their gifts to share, as do we all x

Karen said...

Parenting is the most important job in the world, and there's really no good handbook on how to do it. With love, I guess, and with prayers.

Ghost Dansing said...

seems like a challenge Rachel, and since i am challenged drawing soda through a straw and not having it leak out my nose i shan't even speculate on differences or similarities, however i sense you are a fine mother.

little john

K.Lawson Gilbert said...

Just keep remembering that your children chose you from all others....they must have known and trusted that you would be a good mother for them - and I sense that you are. It may not seem like it now, but they are good for one another, too, probably. Blessings...

RachelW said...

It's really not as bad as it sounds... they are delightful, inspired, beautiful kids, who just have some difficulties with sensory processing and social interaction. I can relate to both of those things. :) We enjoy one another very much, and yes, I do think the kids are good for one another, most of the time!

Little john- what a sweet song. Pity we've kind of wrecked that word special.

Lisa said...

my niece Lindsey is autistic- she appears to be getting further away the older she gets( is now 13)
my sister is in denial
its a sad state xx

RachelW said...

Lisa, I'm sorry to hear that. Maybe (hopefully) it's just a teenage thing for your niece.

I think my kids are pretty well tuned in these days, and I hope it stays that way... they have Asperger's and not a more severe form of autism, so they don't have as many communication challenges as a lot of other kids. We'll see how it goes; the teenage years can be dreadful for any child (or parent)!

Faith said...

Hugs to both you and your children. I think there is so much challenge in being a parent. I am constantly second guessing myself. Maybe all we can do is always have an open heart and an open mind and so so so much love.

Julie said...

Just from reading your poetry, I know that you are an awesome mother. This is beautiful. I have no experience with autistic children, but I can relate 100% to the fear and wanting to protect them. Tiptoeing over glass is perfect.